Vague and indistinct opinion piece. Protecting vs. owning? Wisdom vs. desire? Knowledge vs. impulse? Capabilities vs. maturity? Daughters vs. women? Where is the line between protecting children from others vs. protecting them from themselves? The author does a fine job asserting a person’s right to make their own decisions…and at some point, the parent (who isn’t always a father) has to be able to tell their child no. Period. The complete absence of distinguishing a daughter being under or over the age of maturity and responsibility (i.e., consent) leaves this article as a set of troublesome generalities that may give no guidance at all to parents and “daughters” doing the right things for themselves and their prospective partners. There is also an undertone in this post that the “right to decide” for daughters is somehow different than the same right of sons. A bit of pandering to women here, maybe? A male child vs. female child, a male parent vs. a female parent, and on which side of the age of maturity/responsibility the child may be are important factors, in situational family decision making. A teenager and their body is often very much like a Ferrari with no steering wheel. Being able to have sex vs. being ready to have sex with all its consequences are two very different things. Few are in a better position to judge where a child is in that regard than responsible, loving parents. The father/mother daily navigating the roles of teacher and guide and authority figure and protector has never been easy balance to achieve. Parenting is tough. A liberal philosophical abdication of our responsibilities as parents is no way to resolve the period of intense conflict between teen intellect and hormones to the ultimate benefit of our children.

A career spanning public, private, and nonprofit sectors. High-level management experience across a range of activities in F-500 companies and Consulting/Coach.

A career spanning public, private, and nonprofit sectors. High-level management experience across a range of activities in F-500 companies and Consulting/Coach.

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